the pros and cons of new hobbies.

So I have found some enjoyment in a several new hobbies for mine most of which deal with fiber art realated materials. I found a lovely place online called Ravelry.com to go and find out more about such things and I got into doing swaps.

this proved to be fairly fun but only after a little while for the my main downfall in most of these groups is that I lead a fairly busy life and I would have a lot of troulbe meeting the deadlines for them.

I do realize that no is truly at fault for any of this other then myself alone but I do think I have come to a conclusion about something. a lot of these swap groups try to make the impression that they wish for you to meet other people, and make friendships out of this activity, but how valid a way nessicarily is this to make friends? its based purely upon if you do send out your package on time and if this person gets the item you send out to them at all.

Which yes is nice you are showing you have generosity you are showing that you can be kind even to some who truly is nothing more then a stranger to you.

However one should bare in mind that what if something goes wrong, what if you do everything you are supposed to and the package does not arrive to the person on the other end. I know I myself when just purchasing small items off a web store have had this issue come into play. Or the fact we have several street addresses that have the term Saint (shortened to St.) in their titles.

Then the tables become turned and the postal offices mistake now becomes your own and you are left with two options:

A.Do your damn dist to find out what went wrong and fix the issue and find the package with the postal office.

B. Start from scratch and do the whole thing over again

in conclusion I think the main issue of all of this is it is basing a binging of friendship, based purely upon Materialism. This is not to say we don't give friends or new friends gifts, but wouldn't be nice if we knew that person first. I think this basic reason alone is why I have found swaps to be un happy hobbies of choice most of the time for me. Because it is based around we like you only i you give us stuff. And the world seems to have quite enough "STUFF" as it is.

does this mean I shall forever withhold from doing swaps again....probably not but it will probably make be a lot more picky about ones I decide to partake in the near future.